I was hanging out with an expecting friend recently, and it made me think about this topic. When I was pregnant with my first child, I developed a pet peeve and it is this: asking an expecting mom questions like, “How are you feeling?” “Are you ready?” Or making comments like, “Enjoy your sleep now while you have it!”

For crying out loud! She’s not ready, probably freaking out, and do you remember how you slept at 8-9mo pregnant?! 

Instead, what would be more helpful would be to ask, “Are you getting excited?” and “What can I do to help you?”

Focus on the positive and offer help in a question that she has to answer (not just “Let me know if I can do anything” because we all know that never works). Even if she says there isn’t anything you can help with, at least you gave her an easy way to ask, and didn’t freak her out with thoughts of not being prepared or resentment because she can’t sleep.

Just a thought. 🙂